Wednesday, June 8, 2011

I have to be okay with it

I can't believe the weather! It has been so hot recently that it feels like summer has been in full swing for weeks now and that it should be over soon. In other words, it feels like August to me. I'm so not ready for summer to officially begin. It would also help if I was back to my pre-baby weight but lets be realistic.... I had a baby four months ago so its just not happening for me.

I have been looking online for a swimsuit because I have none that fit and I have been looking at one-piece suits(gasp!). I found a really cute one that seems like it will cover my imperfections, but..... it was too much money. So I settled for something that was a fraction of the cost. I am waiting for it to come in the mail. I also think that it will be good for carrying the kids on the beach and having them in the pool with me. I don't want things to be falling out!

So we have decided to do another garden on our concrete balcony this summer. It looks pretty good, but I can't seem to get cilantro to grow. Is it usually difficult to grow? I don't know but I sure can't grow it... I usually have a green thumb too! I must admit that my dill is kickin this summer! I am so happy about that because I love dill!!! :) Joaquin likes to help out with the planting and watering. I can't wait till my little guy can help out... then it will really feel like a family project.

I tried to make baby food when my first son was ready to do solids but I had the wrong type of  baby food mill and none of the food got to a good consistency that he would eat. We finally have a blender so I can now give it another try. It will also save money for us and that's what we have been trying to do. My little guy is already on baby food (yes, at almost five months old!) and he is just so big compared to his older brother. I can't even compare... they were born under different circumstances and because Joaquin was so early it has really affected his growth.

My milk supply is drying up and I really have been struggling with pumping/nursing recently. After Easter and my stomach virus I had tried to pump every 2-3 hours to get my milk supply up again. It did work even though I was not back to the normal amount I was able to pump before I got sick, but we had gone away for the weekend and I barely pumped/nursed while I was there. It is so much easier to breastfeed then you are somewhere around people who encourage you to do it. I noticed that I needed to be in a relaxing environment in order to breastfeed and that weekend was crazy. I really noticed after that that my supply really went down the tubes. I try to pump now and I only get 4 or 5 ounces in total. That is much less than what he is eating now. I am ready to give up on it completely because it is not only frustrating, it makes me feel like I failed at being a mother because there are some women that breastfeed till the kids are 3 years of age (and I think thats a little crazy). I really wanted to nurse till he was one, but it doesn't like that is going to happen.

I have come to the conclusion that it is so hard to be a full time mom. My job is my kids and to take care of the house and to cook and clean for my family. Its difficult when I have to wake up a few times a night for different reasons. Functioning in the morning is close to impossible without a strong cup of coffee. I am now to the point of having two cups a morning....

-Momma J

Friday, May 20, 2011

Are you afraid of the dark?

Easter and mothers day came and went. We were all sick with a stomach virus for Easter so that was no fun at all. Mothers day was good. Went out with hubs fam on Saturday and on Sunday we went to my grandmothers for lunch. Nothing too crazy.

Last weekend we went to a baptism and something strange happened to my oldest that night. Maybe I'm overthinking the whole thing, but I think he encountered something that resulted in him being scared out of his mind. Since that night, he has not slept a full night and wakes up crying and wanting to get in bed with us. Long story short, there was someone at the party that refuses to set foot in a church because he believes in 'other' things, he 'blessed' one of the other children there and that night my son was screaming and pointing at the closet and when I brought him into another room he cried more and pointed to the corner of the ceiling. I know he saw something and it's freaky. Ive heard that children can see things we adults cannot see because they are innocent beings. They don't know what we know about the world. Anyway, I get goosebumps every time I talk about it. It's something I never wanted my son to encounter but unfortunately he did. I do believe in good and evil, angels and demons. I wonder if there have been other children who have seen good or bad spirits. I wonder how he will learn how to not be afraid in the dark anymore. Any suggestions?

-Momma J

From April

There is nothing like being a mom. It also takes a while to start to feel like one too. I had that moment with my first child, that 'wow' moment. I've been wondering if I will have that feeling again for baby number 2. I know I have more than one child, but I didn't have the wow moment with it yet like "wow..... I have 2 kids!?!". It's shocking and overwhelming at times with everything I have to do, but it's well worth it.

My little guy has been doing great and at almost three months old he can hold up his little head! So proud :). My oldest has been helping me more and more with Lukas and just things in general. They range from putting the pacifier in the baby's mouth to helping me pick up the floor and doing laundry. Such a big helper!! I'm happy he is getting used to having a little brother. The whole jealousy thing was getting old and I was way over it. I guess kids just have to get used to things at their own pace. Until next time!

-J

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

To tweet or not to tweet....

I am having a hard time getting into the whole twitter thing. I know what you are saying...."it's been around for such a long time already, everyone is on it!"  Yes I know it has been around for a while- I am not that dumb, but I really can't get into it- I have tried it (yes, I have a twitter account). Does everyone need to know what I am doing at every second of the day? Not unless you are my stalker and I am quite sure I don't have one of those. I don't know if I really care about following people throughout the day either.... its a little annoying I think. But hey, if you wanna tweet and wanna follow people, then do it. Don't let my opinion sway your decision.

I know I am gonna sound old here but I do think that twitter is for the younger generation. If I had a phone in high school and was able to get on the web at any time, then I would have probably had a twitter account so all my friends would know my each and every move.


It makes me wonder why people need to 'follow' people and have 'followers'. I feel like the people who want and need to know what I am doing are my close friends and family and if they need to know what I am doing they will call me. Whatever happened to that? Calling people and snail mail are things of the past. Emails, twitter and text messages are the future I guess. Are you ready for it? I'm not sure if I am....yet.

-J

Monday, April 4, 2011

You feed me and I feed you

This one is gonna be short and sweet.

My sons had a play date today with a friends son today. I have known her since I was in first grade (many moons ago) and I think it is really cool that we both have kids and they are growing up together. My son Joaquin loves cheerios and so does her son B. So when she was feeding B some cheerios, Joaquin grabbed some and popped a few in his mouth while watching B being fed. Somehow he came up with this idea to feed B. One cheerio in his mouth and the other cheerio went to B. I got it on video and it was so sweet watching him do that. That right there was a great moment for me. I know now that I am doing a pretty good job raising my son- he knows how to share (yay!)!

Hopefully he gets better with sharing other things besides food and I will keep you updated with that!

-Momma J

Plans are for suckers

So my plan to blog every day or two hasn't really worked out too well, and I'm kinda ok with it. It's hard to find the time during the day or even at night to do this and I'm considering myself lucky for having the energy to type right now.

Over the weekend the hubs and I took a mini vacay to NYC. We spent the night in a hotel, went to dinner, hung out at the museum and ventured into some random bars (mostly to keep warm). It was relaxing not having the kids with us but I still woke up every few hours at night. My sister and her husband took care of the kids so I knew they were in good hands... I'm just used to waking up every few hours to feed the little one. I must admit that I had the best nights sleep I've had in months.

So I've been thinking about warm weather and what I can do with the kids besides going to the park or beach. I would love it if Joaquin learned how to plant seeds and grow some plants. I want him to have something he can do himself and be proud of himself for doing a good job. He's been funny..... When he feels he does something good he sits there and claps for himself. Way too cute if you ask me. He shows me his huge smile and giggles as well. He's a funny kid.

I really want to have some things accomplished by the middle or end of summer. I'm trying to be realistic with my goal because I could have easily said I want these things done by the end of spring and it just wouldn't have happened. On with my list: buy a composter and start to compost. Find a part time job (I don't really want this one but I know it's needed). Learn to knit or crochet (with what time?? I don't know!), and a few more things that I can't remember right now. Its that darn mommy brain thing again! : P 

Every day I think of more things I may want to start doing but all my life is right now is watching the kids, feeding the kids, changing the kids, pumping, cleaning, laundry, cooking, dishes and a little bit of sleep. It may not seem like a lot but it is when most of those repeat throughout the day!

The life of a mother never stops.... she is always on duty.

-Momma J

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

My extra ten

So I had an appointment with the baby this past week and found out that Lukas is now ten pounds. I can't believe it because he's not even 2 months old. I've been wondering why my arms have been a little achy. Lol. I just sit here and wonder sometimes how moms with multiples can handle all the babies and still have lives... Or at least seem to still have lives. I find that having a kid who can run and then having a kid who I'm nursing is extremely hard and it's so hard to find time to sleep which means forget about a social life. Right now I can't believe I am up. I am the only one awake in the house and I can honestly say I'm surrounded by snoring men. I think I should get some ear plugs :P

This week wasn't that exciting but it was busy. The hubs was home sick for two days too so it has been a little crazy. I just hope the rest of us don't get sick.

Have you ever just sat and stared for no reason? I'm talking about major brain fart with obnoxious uncontrollable staring. I find myself doing that sometimes. It's usually when Im so tired and I'm not sure how I can possibly function at that particular moment in time. Maybe new moms tend to do it..... Or maybe I'm just that special exception. Either way, I find it annoying when I realize how much time I let slip away.

Ok, so it's pretty late and I'm exhausted and I better get some shut eye before my little guy wakes up. Have a good night!
-J

Friday, February 25, 2011

Babies and updates

Ok, so I must admit I have been a little lazy with this blog. I can't make up one excuse because it was so many things put together that made me lazy. Bed rest, being 9 months pregnant, having a crazy child running around while being on bed rest, and then having the new baby has not been an easy thing. Having one baby is hard enough- especially when the terrible twos are setting in, but add a newborn to that and it's complete chaos. I'm breastfeeding which takes up so much time... But I really wanted to do this because I wasn't allowed to nurse from the get go with Baby J. Speaking of Baby J, he has been so jealous it is ridiculous. He wouldn't come near me in the hospital (which made me feel horrible) and since we have been home he acts up when he feels he needs attention. It's annoying because he will cry and not have a tear in his eye. It's all a front and that front drives me insane! The new baby is doing just fine- growing like a little weed and seems to be the exact opposite of Baby J. He came out at 6 lbs as opposed to 2, and right now ( he's a month old already), he is busting out of 0-3 month clothing. I saved a pair of pjs from Baby J and they fit Little guy right now. J wore them when he was 5 months old!

Sometimes I don't know the reason I started with calling my son Baby J. Maybe to protect his identity, but I feel like I should stop so this is more true to life. My not so little little guy is named Lukas... He's my little blue eyed boy. He has eyes like my dad and they have been such a reminder of how much I miss my dad everyday. I wish he could have met my boys. I think he would have enjoyed having grandsons.

Having kids is hard and having two is even harder. It's a full time job that you never can get a break from. Do I want a break? Well, sometimes I think I would like one but I can't imagine not being around these two wonderful boys of mine all the time. I really enjoy the time I get to spend with them and am so thankful I get to stay home and watch them right now. Eventually I will have to get a job and hopefully find someone to watch them. I won't get into it now because I don't want to think about leaving my little men with someone for hours at a time.

Wow, I really got off subject there. I was talking about Joaquin and Lukas and it turned into daycare/ job and my dad. How random. My head has been all over the place and I blame the kids and lack of sleep. I really should be asleep now but I can't fall asleep yet. I need to get a little more tired. Hopefully I force myself to blog more often... Like every day or so. There was A reason I started this blog and I want to do my best to continue with it and not let it fizzle out of existence. With that said, I Am going to try to sleep and continue to blog tomorrow. Sweet dreams!

- Momma J